Cosmo Says Men Take Pleasure in Female Orgasms and That's Really Bad for Females

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CosmoIt’s not enough that men are already having more orgasms than women. To make matters worse, a new study published in the Journal of Sex Research found — aside from deriving pleasure from their own orgasms, obviously — men also derive a specific sort of masculine pleasure from making female partners orgasm.

The researchers in the study, Sara Chadwick and Sari van Anders, refer to this incredibly predictable phenomenon as a “masculinity achievement.” …

Men felt more masculine and felt high self esteem when they imagined a woman orgasmed during sex with them. “These results suggest that women’s orgasms do function — at least in part — as a masculinity achievement for men,” researchers wrote. … “This ties into cultural ideas of women as passive recipients of whatever men give them.” …

The researchers draw a fairly frightening conclusion from the research findings. When women’s orgasms begin to serve as a masculinity achievement for male partners, the orgasms cease to be about women’s liberation or sexual pleasure. They just become another opportunity for men to flex, or “shore up their sense of masculinity.”

Truth be told, this article is not brand new. Someone sent to me to share with you as we all try to make Barstool the kind of place that noted, lifelong, not-at-all-faking-it-because-their-misogyny-got-outed feminists like Adam C. Best and Drew Margary would be proud of.

This is something men everywhere need to take note of. Personally I’ve never been accused of “toxic masculinity.” Or for that matter, masculinity of any kind. But I’m no stranger to helping the ladies grab the brass O-ring while riding the ol’ Jerry-Go-Round. And I confess I’ve felt pretty, pretty, pret-tay good about myself over it. But until now, I didn’t know I was being sexist. And for that, I apologize.

I thought I was being generous. On a par with making a nice dinner. Or buying a gift. Maybe doing something around the house like putting the laundry away. But now I’ve been set straight. Feeling good about making someone feel good is about the most selfish thing a man can do. Just another symbol of the objectification of women in our patriarchal society. The female orgasm is not an achievement like reaching a new level on Call of Duty. It’s not to be enjoyed by anyone but the female. And if you take any self-satisfaction in it, you might as well be cutting their pay or taking the vote away from them. “Frightening,” to use Cosmo’s own word.

So on behalf of the orgasm-producing male population, please let us apologize for turning you into the passive recipients of our masculine achievements. And I’ll see to it that we never shore up our sense of masculinity by pleasing you ever again.