Boston.com Love Letters - I'm In A Love Triangle Featuring Advice From The Bruins Torey Krug and Matt Bartkowski
The Question
A few months ago I started dating an old friend. We’re both in our 30s. I went into it with a casual attitude since he had loose plans to move to another state next year, but we began to have serious feelings and had “the talk.” He asked me not to see anyone else, but he had a little predicament for himself. By his description, he was in love with both me and his roommate (a previous ex-girlfriend and longstanding friend). According to him, the notable difference was that he was physically attracted to me but had no sexual feelings for her. He explicitly stated that they weren’t sleeping together. Him loving her didn’t bother me, so we were on. Everything was so effortless. We were intimate to the point where I questioned if it was too much for me, but I figured if I was in, I was going to be all in. But a few months ago, it suddenly cooled down. He apologized for not being there and told me he loved me. We had plans later that night, but he never showed and didn’t answer my texts. The next day, I sent a third message just asking if he was OK, and he responded by telling me that we’re over, he can’t believe how I talked down to him (??), and that he’s been with his roommate for months now. When you’re on the losing end of a love triangle, is there anything to do but walk away for good? He had to know that by choosing one of us he’d be losing the other. Didn’t he?
– Ultimatum Aftermath, South Shore
So the Bruins threw their hat in the ring for Love Letters I guess? Here was there answer.
Meredith Hoss Goldstein Answer
A: I don’t know whether he thought he’d lose you for good or whether he secretly intends to return to you whenever it suits him, but his game is over. You’re gone. He can’t be trusted and he clearly lied to you about his feelings for this longtime friend (something tells me that he’s attracted to her enough to sleep with her). If someone tells you that they’re in love with someone else at the start of a relationship, you don’t have to be OK with it. It’s lovely that you were open-minded, but you deserve someone who’s all in — just for you.
Readers? Can you date someone who also loves someone else? What happened here? What happens on the losing end of a love triangle? Will he change his mind? Help.
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– Meredith
Honestly this whole celebrity Love Letters thing just makes me sad. I needed more out of Torey Krug and Matt Bartkowski here. Like if you’re gonna give advice you need to honor the long and storied tradition that I’ve started here at Barstool and that’s telling it like it is. You don’t play paddy-cakes with Hoss Goldstein. Seriously what did these two guys even say? It’s time to walk away? Come on! I know these guys know better. This idiot deserved everything she got. He fucking told her that he loved his roommate before they even started dating and she still dated him. How ugly and insecure do you have to be to enter a relationship like that? Obviously this chick is DISGUSTING looking and has no other options. You want some honest advice honey? It may be time to throw in the towel on men and turn butch Lesbian.