A Woman Was Told 'Lose Some Weight' By A Guy She Was Dating So She Dropped 143 Pounds, Got Hot, And Shocker It Didn't Turn Out Well For The Dude
Daily Mail – [I]t wasn’t until a row with an ex-partner that [Hayley] Westoby realised she’d gained so much weight. And she said the the heat of the moment comment, which wasn’t meant maliciously, gave her the push she needed.
She said: “We were arguing about something silly, when at the end he told me to ‘lose some weight. Deep down I knew he wasn’t being nasty. It was a slip of the tongue that had revealed he had genuine concerns about my size.”
“Later, I weighed myself and I was 119 kilos (262 pounds). It was the heaviest I’d ever been.”
With Ms Westoby saying the comment was enough to spur her on to make some changes, she set herself a challenge to lose five kilos.
What a tale right there huh? A fight between a longstanding couple where one person gained 100 pounds over the course of a couple years leading to some real changes in life. Sure the guy could have handled it a little more diplomatically than dropping it in during a fight but it helped right? All good and a win for the guy right despite some errors in strategy? Not so fast my friends:
Of course, Ms Westoby still has off days where she struggles to go to the gym, just like everybody else, but she’s helped by her partner Nathan, 35, who encourages her to stick to her goals.
She said: ‘I met Nathan at the gym six months ago and he’s been a great support.
‘The anxiety we feel about our bodies is real and sometimes I still look at myself hear those words: ‘You need to lose weight.’
Now listen: If your girl or guy gets a little portly over the course of dating, you should be able to say something. I’m sure it comes from a partially selfish place but no one wants to see a person they’ve invested so much time in balloon up in front of their eyes. So it should be okay to point that out tactfully and preferably not in the middle of a fight. But this is the risk you run by doing it. Your significant other turns it around, maybe even looks better than she ever did, and now all of a sudden the scales of equality within the relationship have tipped and Nathan with the abs looks a bit more appealing than the judgy dude who made her feel bad and doesn’t squat 500 pounds:
Every action has a reaction. I’m sure this dude will take solace that his offhand comment is going to keep that body extra tight for her new dude(s) for the foreseeable future while he’s jerking off to BBW porn and not realizing he developed a taste for a life with more cushion for the pushin.
Also one my longheld theories: If a person you’re dating or married to gains over 20 pounds from the time you met them without another human being grown inside of them you should be free and clear to leave them, no questions asked, without a single social repercussion. It’s like buying a car and having the axel fall off the second you leave the lot. If you’re okay with that, great. But Lemon Laws exist for a reason, time to extend it beyond just poor automobile performance. Still a better alternative than what this dude faced.