From Her Perspective

Our culture is driven by sex.  Well, maybe money and power, too, but these are actually just a means to an end.  When it comes down to it, most everything we do is pushed by the desire to get some.  That said, there are lots of things that guys and girls do to mess things up for themselves when they get into these situations.  But there is one thing that consistently comes up as a huge problem for both guys and girls, and that is oral sex.  I am speaking specifically about giving oral sex to a woman.  You may or may not have noticed, but we’re not that jazzed about it anymore. 

The reason why most girls aren’t into getting head anymore is because nobody seems to be good at it.  Gone are the college days of yore, when boys were out to please a girl because the ability to give good head was tied up in their self-esteem.  Now, guys are only interested in getting themselves off, and girls are so over faking, wriggling around and pretending to because they’re too shy to tell a guy what they really want, that it’s easier to just say no and skip right to the sex.  This, of course, opens up a whole other area of insecurities, boredom and wanting to say something but not being able to get the words out.

I know you’re not a mind reader.  You have no idea how a woman’s body works because you don’t have one.  You want her to tell you what she likes, but she’s too embarrassed.  So where does this leave you?  Well, I guess you’re here, reading this, wondering when I’ll get to the point.  So here it is:

The key to giving good oral sex to a woman is to not allow her to get bored.  Since most of the time, she is lying back while you are going to town and her mind is allowed to wander, she will focus on things that get in the way of her orgasm, instead of helping you along.  Do not let this happen.  A good way to make sure this isn’t happening is to get all of her parts involved.  By this I mean, run your hands along her body, move your tongue up and down her thighs, and suck on her fingers.  You pride yourself on being an excellent multi-tasker on your resume; let’s see if it’s true.  The best head I ever got was from a college boyfriend who was such a good multi-tasker I didn’t have time to think about how my ass looked, if I tasted too soapy or not soapy enough. 

The other crucial part of the riddle is to locate the clitoris and don’t push too hard.  I don’t care how you do it, take her hand and make her show you (but don’t say anything, because she’ll probably get embarrassed) where it is and then spend a few minutes GENTLY moving your finger over it in a circular motion.  If she suddenly starts getting wet, you’ve hit the jackpot.  Guys consistently think that just because they “know” where the clitoris is, it is on the same place every time on every woman and they all like it the same way.  Not true.  If you have to get a medical dictionary, I don’t care, just find out where it is.  Familiarize yourself with its location and you’ll have a better shot at getting her to finish.

And use your hands.  Usually, a tongue is enough to finish us off at the end, but the more precise pressure a finger or two allows will definitely help you along.  You like it when a girl uses her hands and mouth on you, she feels the same way.  And never grab – always slide or push your hands along, if she thinks in any way you are touching her fat, she’s going to freeze right up and it’s always so hard to get her going again.

The final piece of the puzzle is to make her feel sexy.  What do you mean? I am obviously into it if I’m down there, otherwise I wouldn’t be doing it.  Doesn’t matter.  Girls are constantly plagued with self doubt.  But if she’s confident, everything will be ten times better for both of you.  The biggest confidence booster I have ever received was from said college boyfriend, who looked me in the eye and said “You taste incredible.”  From then on, my insecurities were out the window and our sex life was phenomenal. 

Obviously, there’s more.  We could talk about this subject for days, but this is a good start.  I am sure you keep every chick you meet sat-is-fied, but a few pointers never hurt anyone.  Oh, and remember, please wipe your face off when you’re finished.  Discreetly, of course.  Good luck!