A New Study Has Women Concerned About Guys 'Stealthing' AKA When A Dude Pulls A Condom Off During Sex To Knock A Girl Up
Source – A new study documents the rise of a particularly disturbing sex trend called “stealthing,” or when a man removes a condom during sex without his partner’s consent. The Huffington Post reports that this study, conducted by Alexandra Brodsky for the Columbia Journal of Gender and Law, contains interviews with victims of this method, as well as a investigation into the corners of the internet that encourage men to do this to their partners.
Brodsky explained to The HuffPost that she began the study after realizing that several of her friends were “struggling with forms of mistreatment by sexual partners.” The victims in her research all felt violated after having been “stealthed,” but many were unsure of how to report such behavior, or if it constituted as rape. One particular victim in her study described being “stealthed” as “rape-adjacent.”
What’s even more disturbing is the fact that “stealthing” is widely discussed online in some internet circles, and, as Brodsky learned through her research, some men actually encourage one another to practice this behavior. According to the study, there are men who believe they are entitled to “spreading their seed,” and see “stealthing” as a tactic that is within their rights. Brodsky notes that there are message boards online where men give one another “tips” for removing condoms during sex without their partner’s knowledge. “Proponents of ‘stealthing’ root their support in an ideology of male supremacy in which violence is a man’s natural right,” she added.
They almost had me with the idea of dudes pulling off a condom midstroke because, well, condoms suck. But the idea of there being some sort of wave of dudes out there ripping condoms off willy nilly because they’re into the idea of knocking up women and having to pay child support and also risking sexual assault charges in the process….I don’t know man. The internet offers up a lot of pockets of weirdness I’m often horrified by buuuut I find it hard to believe this is an epidemic. It goes against not only everything that has been programmed into men for decades — namely: Don’t knock a chick up unless you’re dead set on her because it’ll fuck your whole life up — but it doesn’t even make sense with what you know of other guys who’ve knocked up a shitload of chicks. Shawn Kemp wasn’t out there to “spread his seed” in the name of “male supremacy,” he was just a guy who didn’t like wearing condoms, also loved busting inside a chick, and was willing to pay the price out of his millions to do it. That’s a credible, yet stupid, argument for guys who might be avoiding the friendly confines of latex. This one seen on some sort of sexual deviant message board? I am not sold on it being anything other than the ramblings of some anti-woman Redditor, not some buzzworthy term issue sweeping the land.
That said, if you’re going to fear monger chicks out there, calling it “stealthing” makes it sound way cooler than it actually is. Stealthing sounds like something Tom Cruise did in one of the Mission: Impossible movies, not some rapey move by a dude who doesn’t get the economic impact of child support or jail on earnings. Keep the condoms on unless you’re in a committed relationship willing to have a child or when you really hate how they feel when hooking up with a very trustworthy worthy girl who has a college degree from a top 100 school. Those are the only exceptions here.