Boston.com Love Letters - Can I Still Have Sex With My Ex?

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From Boston.com Love Letters

 

The Question

I have been in a relationship for about seven months. Both of us are in our mid-20s. Our relationship is a lot of fun and I can see definite long-term possibilities for us. I’m not ready to proclaim that this is the one, but I am certainly headed in that direction.

Here is the situation. A little while before I met my current boyfriend, I dated a different guy. Our relationship only lasted about three months. We fought constantly and the relationship was rocky except for the sex. We had the absolute best sex and we had it a lot. We broke up because we both knew the relationship wasn’t going to work. In the time after our break up, we would get together every so often, maybe once every month or two, and have sex. These encounters were mutual and each one of us would initiate them at different times.

My current relationship is headed to the exclusive stage. We have not had the official talk but I know he already is being exclusive. I have been getting serious and I fully want to be exclusive down the road. I also want to meet up with my ex for some more mind-blowing sex before “down the road” becomes now. I don’t believe the pure physicality of sex with my ex ruins that nor does it take away from the fact that I only want to date my current boyfriend. I’m reasonably certain that my current boyfriend would not want me meeting up with my ex just for sex even though we are not officially exclusive. I just don’t see him taking it well. I am not the cheating type and I know I will give up my ex for my current guy.

How should I negotiate this situation?

– Question in Cambridge

 

Meredith “Hoss” Goldstein’s Answer

A:You should negotiate this situation by not having sex with your ex. Sorry. You haven’t had an official talk with your current boyfriend about exclusivity, but it sounds like your commitment is implied. Based on what you’ve told us about your new relationship, it just doesn’t seem like a risk worth taking. And I’m not convinced that the mind-blowing sex would feel as good now that you’re emotionally connected to someone else.

Readers? Can she get away with having sex with this guy one more time? Should she want to? Are they exclusive, even if they haven’t had the talk? Help.

– Meredith

 

Everytime I think Hoss has given out the worst advice possible she raises the bar with more hideous advice. Seriously she should be thrown in pig jail for giving out this type of advice.

 

El Pres Answer

Dear Question in Cambridge,

So let me get this straight. You met this new guy who you absolutely love and think he could be the one, but you still can’t stop thinking about your ex and how much you want to get fucked by him. Newflash your new boyfriend isn’t the one. Like you’re still in the honeymoon part of the new relationship and you already are dreaming of other cock?  It’s not a matter of if you’ll cheat, but when. Hey I ain’t mad at ya. Who doesn’t love great sex? Let’s just stop pretending this new dude is your soul mate. No he’s not. Because if he was you wouldn’t be craving the dick juice from your ex. So if I were you I’d keep your mouth shut, quit pretending you’re going to settle down and just keep getting laid as much as you can by both your current boyfriend and your Ex.   The more dick for you the better you little slut.