Dear Lizzy, I Need A Date For My Sister's Wedding But I Don't Have Any Prospects
I have my sisters wedding in a couple months and I need to find a plus one since I am as single as it gets. Any suggestions?
Dear Forever Alone,
PUT THE GUN DOWN!
There’s no need to get all dramatic with your “forever alone” sentiment. It’s going to be ok – it’s just a wedding.
Honestly, people give weddings much more power than they deserve. NOTHING makes people feel more inadequate than a wedding, especially if they’re single. Oh they look so happy… will I ever be that happy? Will I ever get to walk down the aisle? Why have all of my relationships ended, but didn’t end in marriage? What if it never happens to me??!! Oh my God I’m going to be forever alone!
Probably not. Most people end up finding someone at some point or another… and most people end up splitting from that person at some point or another. Then the half of those who takes vows of “for better or for worse” end up not being able to handle the “for worse” and also end up splitting up. I’m not saying this to sound bitter, I’m saying this to give you a little perspective: it’s just a wedding.
It does not mean happily ever after, regardless of how happy the couple looks. (Of course they look happy – they spent thousands and thousands of dollars on this one day, they better enjoy it!) It’s a celebration of right now and has absolutely nothing to do with you, so you shouldn’t stress making it about you.
Who cares if you don’t have a date! Go stag. Be the confident single guy who’s there to celebrate his sister’s new found marriage. Get drunk, dance with her friends, dance with your aunts, and just enjoy yourself and your family.
The last thing you want to do is take a random date to a family wedding. You definitely don’t want to introduce a girl you barely know to your parents, siblings, aunts, uncles, cousins, grandparents, family friends, etc. That sounds unnecessarily exhausting, and let’s be real here, you’re going up spending the entire night babysitting. No thanks.
The only true alternative here is to take a (girl) friend to the wedding, someone you know you can dance with and have a good time. Preferably someone who already knows your family so it doesn’t turn into this big ordeal of, “Well he’s says they’re just friends, but will you look at them two! The chemistry is undeniable!”
Otherwise, commit to going to the wedding alone and you’ll have a blast.
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