I’ll cut to the chase: I’ve been dating this girl since August, she’s very pretty, and super nice, but I’ve found that our personalities don’t really mesh. It’s usually an easy situation where I’d just sit her down and break up with her, but… we’re both mutual friends with a couple that is getting married in a couple months and we’re both in the wedding party. Should I break it off and accept whatever happens after that, or just keep going out with her, hoping that something changes between us?
What Do I Do
Dear What Do I Do,
You need to break up with this girl immediately. Stop reading the rest of this blog and break up with her right this second. You are wasting your time and you’re wasting her time, and for what? So the wedding is a little less awkward? Guess what? That wedding is going to suck for you either way.
A) You’re stuck at a wedding where there’s usually plenty of hot, single people looking for action, and you can’t enjoy yourself because you’re technically with someone you have no interest actually being with.
B) You’re stuck at a wedding where there’s usually plenty of hot, single people looking for action, and you can’t enjoy yourself because your ex-girlfriend is watching your every move.
Do not stay with this person because of a wedding. Frankly, that’s selfish and cruel, and if she’s a super nice person like you say she is- she deserves better.
Also, if you’re clinging on to the idea that maybe something will change, you’re delusional. You’ve been dating since August, if your personalities don’t mesh, they’re not going to magically start meshing now! Be open, kind, and honest with her and call it a day. She’ll be hurt, but she’ll move on. And with the wedding still two months away, she’ll get the space and time she needs away from you to be ok in your presence.
(P.S. There’s a small possibility she also feels like you guys don’t mesh well together and is afraid to say something. If this is the case- that’s going to be one hell of a wedding!)
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