Pres…I need your help.
I just ended my relationship with the guy I lost my virginity to. Here’s the story…this guy was absolutely amazing. He was the first guy I could blow for 20 minutes without a complaint. First guy I actually didn’t mind being exclusive with. And he ended up being the first guy I had sex with. Our first time was great. After that, I noticed that anytime we had sex, he would close his eyes. The fuck? I eat fucking carrots and work out everyday to maintain a fit body and he won’t even look at me? It literally fucked with my mind to the point where I just lost all the arousal anytime I was on top of him and saw him laying there with his eyes closed. I asked him about it and he said it helps him “focus on the pleasure.” Whatever. I understand closing your eyes when you’re old and married and need to fantasize about Kate Upton riding your cock. But I want you to look at me for at least the first 20 times we do it. Anyway, since he didn’t make any effort to change and refused to be more romantic (I wanted him to grab me by my hair and bang my throat against his dick and he refused), I broke up with him.
Now my friends are telling me I’m an idiot and that I let a good guy go. Ugh…I have needs. But question is…am I an idiot? Is it okay for guys to close their eyes during sex and downright refuse to be a little rough every once in a while? Since this is the first guy I ever went all the way with, I’m not sure. Maybe I have unrealistic expectations of the sex life….
First of all I’m kind of calling bullshit on this emailer being a chick. I mean what chick says “I wanted him to grab me by my hair and bang my throat against his dick and he refused so I broke up with him”? I almost came just reading that. Is this the new Shades of Grey generation? Do girls really say shit like this? Because if so I need to find me a new mistress asap because mine aren’t cutting it.
Anyway back to the question. Did you have unreal expectations about what your sex life should be like because you wanted rough and raunchy sex? Fuck no. All guys want to have rough sex, pull hair, jizz in your face, watch as they fuck a chick blah, blah, blah. It’s hardwired into our DNA. But here is what you got to understand. Not all guys are awesome at sex. Like if I start watching too closely for too long I’ll just ejaculate my shit all over the place in 2 seconds. Sometimes a brother needs to just close his eyes and start rehearing the Sox starting lineup to slow the process down. Take it down a level. Regroup. So maybe that’s what your boyfriend was doing? Either that or he’s gay or thinks you’re gross. But honestly none of that even matters. You are clearly a freak and need a ton of dick before you settle down so dumping him was clearly the right move.