From Her Perspective

Girls play games.  Guys do, too.  Girls, of course can never figure out what guys are thinking, and the same happens vice versa.  As girls start looking at their married friends jealously, and note how quickly their “scary ages” are coming up, they realize that it’s time to stop sitting in the corner and waiting for something to happen, they are going to get out there and make a minimal attempt.  Come on, you know girls think the smallest effort they make is huge.  So, in order for you to be able to better understand what she is thinking, I have put together some things you should look for when you think a girl may be into you…

If a girl is interested in you, she will pick up the phone when you call.  I know this sounds pretty obvious, but if she thinks of you as just a friend, she’ll let it go to voicemail if she’s busy.  If she likes you, chances are she’s waiting with the phone nearby to hear from you, and you’re a priority.  If she misses your call because she’s genuinely got something going on, you’ll get a call back for sure.  With friends, it’s touch and go.  Especially if you are a friend that she suspects wants something more and the feelings are not mutual.

If she is interested in you, it’s likely she’ll tell someone you both know.  This is a surefire half-assed way for girls to feel like they are putting themselves out there without actually having to face rejection.  She will also try to be alone with you, even if she brings friends along so she doesn’t look too overly eager.  She’ll drunk dial you, and then be super embarrassed about it.  If a girl thinks of you as just a friend, she won’t care that she called you six times to talk about the awesome Bee Gees cover band that’s playing and how hungry she is for Ramen noodles.

Sometimes, girls decide that they like their friends.  This happens a lot, since you have stuff in common, spend a lot of time together, and oftentimes end up drunk and horny in the same place.  If she decides that she may like you more than a friend, you’ll notice that she looks a little nicer when she sees you than before.  She may be more flirtatious, but it’s more likely she’ll hang back more, especially if she is unsure if her feelings are being reciprocated.  Things that were always okay suddenly aren’t.  She won’t wear her gross pajamas in front of you, and her hair is always done.  If this happens, you may be dealing with a girl who has taken you off the friend ladder and wants to see you naked.

There are also ways to tell if she’s not interested.  You may think she’s just playing games with you, but if any of these circumstances arise, you should start looking elsewhere because this chick is probably never going to be your girlfriend.  I know, I know, you still think she’s interested.  Dude, face it.  She’s not.

Chances are, she’s not interested if she’s seeing someone else.  Of course, there are always exceptions to this rule, but generally, she may think you’re really nice, but she’s dating the person she really likes.  We’re not kids anymore, if she wants someone, she’ll go after them.  If she likes you better than her boyfriend, she’ll dump him and make a play for you.  If she doesn’t, you’re in the friend zone and it is likely that’s where you’ll stay. 

She doesn’t want to date you if she keeps telling you what a great friend you are.  She doesn’t want to date you if she leaves you to go meet another guy.  She doesn’t want to date you if she brings other guys around and pays attention to them and not you.  She doesn’t want to date you if she is engaged.  She doesn’t want to date you if you take her out somewhere romantic and she takes phone calls from other guys.  She doesn’t want to date you if you think she’s flirting with you, yet treats every other guy in your group exactly the same way.  Girls behave this way with friends, not with potential boyfriends.  If she likes you, she won’t talk about other guys.  She’ll only want to be with you, not with you and all of your friends. 

All girls know that guys are kind of dumb when it comes to signals, and in order to get anywhere they generally have to hit you over the head with it.  But maybe if you pay attention to these signals, things will be a little easier, for both you and her.  You won’t be lead down the wrong path, wasting valuable time that could be better spent chasing new tail, and she won’t have to feel like a jerk for letting you down.  The right person is out there, you just may not have found her yet.  You may think it’s impossible, but Syracuse won the NCAA Tournament a few years back, and the Curse is officially reversed.  Just be patient, be attentive, and you’ll be fine.  Good luck!